Is there a general consensus on people preferring cut or uncut? I can't ask any of the people I know because it's pretty embarrassing to me.
It’s really hard to give a general consensus, as opinions are so mixed, and there are a lot of people in each of these “groups.” There are people who won’t even touch an intact penis, those who will accept it very begrudgingly, those who don’t mind one way or the other, or have a very weak preference, those who think circumcision is senseless but aren’t so passionate about it, the hardcore intactivists… there’s really no general statement on what people prefer.
That said, I can say that less and less people people these days are repulsed by foreskin as compared to previous times, and the amount of people who recognize that foreskin is okay will only grow. It also varies geographically: the West coast generally is the most pro-foreskin, while the Northeast and Midwest are the least accepting. There’s a pretty interesting map of circumcision rates by state here.
I can remember being younger and (as a gay guy) I was watching gay porn (with shame, because I had some pretty serious self-loathing stemming from my school life, new hormones and religious parents, but that's another story!) and seeing uncircumcised penises and being confused as all hell because I'd never seen anything but cut dicks so I was completely confused and couldn't ask anyone about it. It wasn't until a year or so later that I finally learned of circumcision.
It’s a shame that so many young people live without even KNOWING they’ve been altered in such a huge way. It’s bad enough that this is done when we’re not even old enough to remember it happening, and the fact that many of us aren’t even told, and have to discover it ourselves, just makes that even more messed up.
I was 10 when I learned about circumcision. I had stumbled onto some info about it on a message board I frequented as a kid. Prior to that, I had just assumed my penis was as it should be, and that everyone else’s was too. It’s a rude awakening!
okay so I don't really understand, so people say to circumcise babies because it keeps them from getting infections, but why aren't supposed to clean under the foreskin, if they are uncircumcised? Won't they get infected if you don't clean under there?
You’re supposed to clean under the foreskin once it’s able to retract. However, in infants and young children, it isn’t able to retract, as the foreskin is still fused to the glans. Therefore, no dirt is able to get under there in the first place, so there’s no need to clean it. Forcing the skin back before it’s naturally ready to can cause damage to the penis.
Hi I am uncut and have been having a problem with getting splits or tears in my foreskin during sex, I don't notice until after of cause and it then becomes quite painfull do you have any advice, I am married so I only have sex with my wife. Thanks
Do you have a particularly tight foreskin (i.e. needs a bit of force to fully retract, if it can at all)? It may be beneficial to do some stretching exercises or use creams to loosen it up a little. I wrote a post about ways to treat phimosis, which could apply to you: http://uncutting.tumblr.com/post/30180562464/
It also might help to use lube when you have sex, if you don’t already.
If anyone else has advice, chime in!
the unspoken aspects of having a foreskin
Something I've always wondered about the ridged band is this: Does it scrunch up and protect the glans from cold weather like the The cremasteric reflex does for the testes? Cone someone intact respond to this plz?
This is a good question! Can anyone answer this?
Having a foreskin does not make your penis disgusting, unhygienic, weird, or unnatural. Foreskin is a healthy, functional, unique body part that virtually all penises have from birth. Don’t let a generally unnecessary cultural practice make you feel inferior.
If you are circumcised, you don’t need to feel inferior for that, either. While circumcision itself is generally a problematic practice, there is no shame in not having your foreskin, especially if you had no say in the matter. Even if you’re unhappy with being circumcised, It doesn’t make your penis any less deserving of love.
Hate the practice, love the penis.
Genitals of the Day
Here is my contribution, in all of its veiny glory.
I’ve always been happy (relieved) that my parents chose to keep me intact. There have been occasions on which friends have tried to tease with nicknames like “Snuffalugagus”, but even as a kid I took any such remarks in stride… proudly explaining the benefits of my natural turtle neck. Generally, I’ve always sensed a bit of envy from cut friends and acquaintances .. I think most of them long to know what it feels like to be whole.
I believe it is the display of a societal disease, or perhaps just a childish insecurity of our society, to continually shame the natural body, and go to great lengths to hide, and alter it to gain acceptance. Women seem to receive the worst of this, particularly in regards to body hair. I’m often saddened by the discomfort women are made to feel about having hair on their bodies. Female body hair is an evolutionary indicator of sexual maturity… it is one of the most visceral of sexual stimuli. Anyhow, I digress. I’ll stop there.
Thanks for providing a venue for this, and best of luck with your restoration.
Thanks for the well-wishes, and for submitting. I’m happy to provide a venue for people to share their feelings on personal body parts that they otherwise may not have the chance to discuss very often. Your penis is great, and I’m glad you’re happy with your foreskin!
Genitals of the Day is a daily celebration of the diversity and beauty of human genitals. If you’re interested in submitting for it, take a look at the guidelines!
I absolutely love your blog, and all the work you are doing to make others aware of the fact that we should really get it out of our minds to find circumcision a normal thing to do. My dad is circumcised and my parents actually planned to have me circumcised too. I was lucky enough to actually have a doctor who refused it! I really hope that parents think twice, before making a decision that you can’t turn back later on! With this collage i want to show how beautiful a foreskin actually is!
Thanks! I appreciate what you do, too, and that includes this collage. You have a fantastic foreskin and a great penis, and hopefully you’ve inspired others to embrace theirs as much as you do.